By Ken Keis (Canada)

Relationship: The state of being related or interrelated; the relation connecting or binding participants in a relationship; a state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings

Most of what is taught about making a personal relationship work is wrong!

Once in a while, you come across individuals who can back up their opinions and claims with real examples and research to support their comments. Recently we were introduced to the work of Dr. John Gottman of Seattle. For 30 years, he and his team of researchers have conducted in-depth “Love Lab” studies of relationships.

The findings might surprise you.

A pleasant affirmation is that much of Dr. Gottman’s work is supported by the CRG approach, models, and assessments. We will not have enough space to go into all the details of his findings but here are some of the highlights.

Before we go to the positive behaviours that build a relationship, let’s review what predicts separation or divorce—with over 90% accuracy.

Source: iCN Issue 7 (Relationship Coaching); pages 24-27

About Ken Keis

Ken Keis, Ph.D., President of CRG, is a global authority on developmental assessments and on how assessment strategies increase and multiply success rates. In 28 years, he has conducted over 3000 presentations and invested 10,000+ hours in consulting and coaching.

His latest book, The Quest For Purpose: A Self-Discovery Process To Find It And Live It!, is available at He is also the author of Why Aren’t You More Like Me? Discover the Secrets to Understanding Yourself and Others, and co-author of Deliberate Leadership: Creating Success Through Personal Style. He co-created CRG’s proprietary development models, and has written more than 3.5 million words of content for 40 business training programs, and over 500 articles. Ken’s expertise includes assisting individuals, families, teams, and organisations to realise their full potential and to Live On Purpose!