By Robert Holmes (Australia)

Have you ever observed that one client appears to be very responsive to your coaching, and another is very reserved? They both get great outcomes, but one of them comes across as a kind of resistance. It surprises you when, after the coaching, they say how profound it was – yet you never saw that reflected in their conduct at the time. You are probably engaging a person with an M-brain – a male defined neuronal structure. It is profoundly altering their experience of coaching – and your experience of them!

Thirty years of research across two continents has finally settled it. Drs Anne Moir and Louann Brizendine have spent 30 years researching the differences between men and women, publishing their results in “Brainsex” and “The Male Brain” respectively. Biological sex (male/female) is combined with mental gender (M-brain/F-brain) to create a spectrum of clients who all respond to coaching differently. Men and women are genetically different. In every cell: women have two X chromosomes and men have an X and a Y. That second X gives a woman’s eyes ten times the observable colours. Her skin is ten times as sensitive. Through every phase of life the male experience and perception, processing of information and emotional journey is fundamentally different from the female.

Source: iCN Issue 7 (Relationship Coaching); pages 9-10

About Robert Holmes

Robert Holmes, PCC. B.Comm., P.G.Dip.Acc., C.B.Fac., M.Div., Th.D., CALC, MAIMC, MAICD. CEO of Frazer Holmes Coaching ( – one of Australia’s largest coaching companies. Robert has written over 240 hours of ACTP coursework and is the author of six books on leadership, coaching, community and theology.